The Secret to Become a People Magnet

Maybe you’ve wondered what makes some people so magnetic and thought of how you can become like that. Well, the reason why certain people seem to have the magnetic ability to draw others toward them may not be some special gift, after all, it may actually be a tool available to all of us. Over the years, I’ve always been fascinated by watching people either when they’re interacting with other people or just going about their daily business, oblivious to anything or anyone else around them, and I believe I know how to become a people magnet.

The secret on how to become a people magnet is not something that only I know or I have magically discovered. You also probably know why some people are so magnetic, and when I mention a few ideas in this article, I’m sure you’ll realize the secret to becoming a people magnet has been staring you in the face for ages.



To become a people magnet all you have to do is observe the people you know who seem so magnetic. Look at how they act and how they hold themselves while alone or around other people.

I have spent time examining the movements of certain people magnets in my social circle and others that are better known to the general public. The funny thing is all people magnets seem to have a similar trait, and that’s real self-confidence.

When I say real, I literally mean real, not fake, not contrived and not a form of confidence that they only display when others are watching but an authentic confidence that’s unmistakably genuine in all circumstances, even when they’re alone.


One of my bodybuilding mates was in Venice, California in the early 1990s, and while he was there he visited World Gym hoping to catch a glimpse of Arnold Schwarzenegger since he knew that was the gym that Arnold trained in at the time.

He went to the gym one morning and asked the attendant if Arnold was in the gym or if he knew when he’d be coming. The attendant told him that he’s in luck, Arnold was in town and he would very likely come to the gym early the next morning.

My friend went back the next morning when the gym opened and waited inside. He told me that he waited for a while and then suddenly, he just knew Arnold had arrived, although he couldn’t see or hear Arnold at that stage. Sure enough, just moments later he heard Arnold’s unmistakable laugh as he entered the gym.

When he laid eyes on Arnold he said Arnold had this indescribable presence about him, it’s unlike anyone else he had ever seen or met before. After his workout, Arnold happily posed for a photo with my friend who now has that photo blown up to poster size, and it hangs on one of the walls in his house.

Years later, I also had the opportunity to meet Arnold in person, and although I am a big fan of his, he did exude tremendous magnetic energy, unlike anything I had ever experienced before.

I lived and worked in Bondi Beach for years, and during that time I saw many celebrities like Keanu Reeves, Laurence Fishburne and Charlie Sheen among others, and some of these people did transmit a certain magnetic charm, but none of them were in the same league as Arnold.

When I was a young tennis player during my school years, I met and had my photo taken with Ivan Lendl, who at the time was the Number One ranked tennis player in the world. Ivan, as many know, is a man of few words but even though our meeting was over 30 years ago, I can still remember him as a man with incredible confidence, and it was his confidence that gave him that magnetic appeal.

Today, in his late 50s, Ivan is one of the most respected gentlemen in the International tennis community, and when you see him getting interviewed, you could hear a pin drop as everyone around him is mesmerized by his every word.


Arnold doesn’t have magnetic charm because he’s a famous movie star or a great actor. Arnold is one of the biggest movie stars of all time because he has a magnetic personality. It’s his magnetic charm that got him where he is today.

I have read interviews with people who have met or worked with Al Pacino who said the same thing. Al is only a short guy, but he looks ten feet tall since he’s such a people magnet and people can’t take their eyes off him. Jack Nicholson is another example, and I doubt anyone will disagree with that whether you’re a fan of his or not.

It’s not only big-time movie stars who are people magnets, I only used those few examples, since most people would have heard of those people I mentioned and already be aware of their unmistakable and genuine confidence. Most people magnets are Joe Nobody’s who work in regular jobs in everyday towns all over the world.


An old friend of mine from my hometown was a classic people magnet, and everyone used to wonder why people were seemingly magnetised to him. He’s a real Mr Average. He worked for a small landscaping company and was not a particularly handsome individual.

He didn’t have much money, but back when I still lived in my hometown, he was beating all the hot girls off with sticks. Sorry, that’s slang for he had his pick of just about any girl who crossed his path. It wasn’t just the girls who wanted to be around him, everyone wanted to be his friend and the reason was that he was only ever himself.

He never put on an act to impress people. He was goofy at times and never tried to hide his flaws but he was always just himself and exuded self-confidence in every situation. Everybody who met him could obviously pick up on this whether consciously or subconsciously and this was why he was a people magnet.

To become a people magnet is no secret only available to a special few. You can be as magnetic as the next guy or girl if you simply be yourself. When you love yourself unconditionally, flaws and all, people will be magnetized to you. I have no doubt about it.

The reason why there seem to be so few people magnets among us is, well, how many people do you really know who never put on an act and never ever care about what other people think? It’s only when you can get past the insecurity of worrying about what others think that you’re completely free to be yourself and do whatever you want to do in life. And in the process, you’ll become a people magnet.


Anthony Hill

When you put together the sum total of my 30 years of bodybuilding training, the contests, the vast array of diets I have experimented (tortured) myself with as well as the experiences I have been through with various training partners in the gyms I have trained in all over the world, it’s been a great ride and I wouldn’t change it for anything. Over the years, I have been fortunate enough to be able to do lots of personal training for private clients alongside my day job. For a few years during my 30’s, I moved to Asia and worked as the Fitness Manager and head personal trainer at one of Thailand’s leading gyms in Bangkok. Learn More

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