Why Judging Others Is a Big No-No

One thing I’ve always felt uncomfortable with is just how quickly some people like to judge other people. So often, people start jumping to conclusions and judging others unfairly without knowing all the facts, or in some cases, not knowing any of the facts.

I personally make it a rule to never judge other people no matter what they may have appeared to do or not do. Due to the nature of the universal law of cause and effect, we always get what we deserve in the long run, so there’s never any need to judge others.



What has prompted me to write this article is a phone call I received from a mate of mine recently. My friend was approached by an elderly gentleman when he was on the way to work one morning not long ago. The latter asked him if he could help him retrieve a set of keys he had accidentally dropped into a drain near where my friend had parked his car.

My friend told this man he would like to help, but he was in a hurry to get to work, and he’ll have to ask somebody else for their help. The man quickly responded that there was no one else around to help him and pleaded for my friend’s help. My friend apologised and told the man he just didn’t have the time to help him find the keys he dropped in the drain and began to walk away.

As my friend walked away, this man verbally abused him using the most profane language you could possibly imagine. He was clearly judging my friend as an asshole, who didn’t care about others. But was this the case? After work that day, my friend went home and couldn’t stop thinking about what happened that morning with the old man and decided to give me a call.


It seemed like the right thing to do was to help the old man find the keys that he accidentally dropped down the drain. But there’s another entirely different side to this story. My friend had been out of work for almost two months and this was his first day at his new job.

He had to go through three interviews to get this job in a very competitive field and he certainly didn’t want to be late on his first day. On top of this, my friend has a wife and two very young daughters as well as a mortgage he has been struggling to pay since he has been out of work.

When you see the other side of this story, it makes sense that my friend didn’t stop to help this old man. He told me he wanted to help the man find his keys since it was very early in the morning and there didn’t appear to be anyone else around, but his family must come first, and there was no way he could risk being late on his first day at his new job.

I told him I would’ve done the same thing he did under those circumstances and that this is just one of those uncomfortable decisions we must occasionally face in our daily lives.

We all come across difficult decisions and face awkward circumstances during our journey through life. And because we’ll never know all sides to another person’s story, it’s not our place to judge other people no matter what they seem to have done or not done.

We mustn’t also be too hard on ourselves when we’re facing a difficult decision. Anyone can only ever decide on one course of action for any given situation, and no one can ever make the right choice every time. Everyone must face the consequences of the choices they make. As long as we do what we feel is the right decision to make at any given moment, what else can we do?


Anthony Hill

When you put together the sum total of my 30 years of bodybuilding training, the contests, the vast array of diets I have experimented (tortured) myself with as well as the experiences I have been through with various training partners in the gyms I have trained in all over the world, it’s been a great ride and I wouldn’t change it for anything. Over the years, I have been fortunate enough to be able to do lots of personal training for private clients alongside my day job. For a few years during my 30’s, I moved to Asia and worked as the Fitness Manager and head personal trainer at one of Thailand’s leading gyms in Bangkok. Learn More

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