Why Are You at the Right Place at the Right Time Every Time

Have you ever considered exactly why you are where you’re at today? Perhaps you’re overwhelmingly happy about your current position in life, or maybe you’re disappointed with what you have become or where your life is at. What I’m going to tell you in this article is, you are where you are today, and there’s no other place you could be since you’re always in the right place at the right time every time.

So the first thing that probably popped into your mind when I said that was, ‘what if I made a different choice or took another path in the past’? Would I be in a different place then? The truth is that’s not possible, and I’ll explain why.



We go through our lives gaining knowledge, discovering new information, learning lessons, making mistakes, having victories, dealing with losses and so on. This is the nature of our life on this planet, and it begins to happen from the day we are born.

As we watch the world and the people around us, we all grow into unique individuals. Even if we look like someone else, we’ll never think exactly like someone else since we’re all a product of our own unique set of experiences.

It’s due to the nature of these experiences that we become who we are and think the way we do. If we encounter a host of loving experiences as we grow into adults, we might tend to have a positive or a general feeling that the world is wonderful and quite positive.

If we grow up in a world of violence and hatred, we would, most probably, feel quite fearful of the outside world and be very wary of other people. I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know. What I’m trying to establish is that we all encounter a different set of circumstances in life and this shapes our thinking patterns as individuals.


Now the reason why we’re in the right place at the right time every time is that we can only ever make one choice at any given moment. You may be thinking that this isn’t true, I also did before I could get my head around this concept, but I’ll do my best to explain the idea without leaving any room for doubt. Don’t confuse options with choices, although they seem to mean the same thing, they’re not.

Yes, we always have options in any situation, but we can only ever make one choice. Let me give you a complete example.

You’re working in a liquor store behind the counter, and an obviously high or intoxicated armed robber enters the store and demands to be given all the money in the cash register. Person A behind the counter has been through a similar situation before and reacts by carefully opening the cash register and handing over the money, and the bandit runs away.

Person B behind the counter is extremely timid and fearful by nature and has never before been in a situation as remotely scary as this and subsequently freezes up. The bandit begins screaming at person B and tries to open the cash register himself but cannot get it open. So, he shoots person B since he’s so strung out and on edge and then the robber flees the scene.

Person C behind the counter lost his father in a similar style armed robbery two years before when a robber shot and killed his father, and the police were never able to track down the killer. Person C is filled with anger and hatred, and as he notices the armed robber look around the shop at all the petrified customers he grabs the gun, it accidentally discharges and kills one of the customers.

Person D behind the counter is calm and level-headed but is in the shop alone at the time with no customers present and when the gunman bursts in he decides to hand over all the money. But, the gunman being scared that person D will be able to identify him, shoots him in the stomach and then the robber flees the scene. However, person D survives. I wonder what person D will do next time.

Okay, I’ve presented the same situation but with four different types of people behind the counter. In every case a decision has to be made, there are a number of options to choose, but ultimately, only one choice can be made.

Where does that choice come from? There’s only one place that choice can come from, and that is by drawing on all your previous life experiences and deciding what you think is the best choice. You don’t have time to sit down and think about it, you have to make a decision or perhaps, go into autopilot mode and react, but that choice will also stem from your collective experiences.

Since we’re all a product of our experiences, we’ll each choose to do what we feel is right in that brief moment and we’ll have to live or die with that choice. There are many options but only ever one choice.


To get into this horrible situation was also your choice, since you had to first take the job, maybe because you needed the money, or you had a friend that worked at the same store, it was your part-time weekend only job to save up some extra money for travelling or to get the money together for a deposit on your first home.

On top of this, you had to make a choice to go to work on that particular day, you could’ve called in sick or you could’ve refused the shift, but you did what you thought was the best decision for you at that moment and went to work at the liquor store on that day.

The reason why you’re always in the right place at the right time every time is that you always have to decide from moment to moment, throughout your entire life, the next best step to take.

How you make a choice is by drawing on your previous experiences, I mean what else could you possibly draw on? You might not always make what seems like the best choice, but you don’t and will never have the benefit of hindsight, if you did, it wouldn’t be called hindsight.


I once had regrets that haunted me for years, and over time, it started to wear me down till I met someone. This person was infinitely wiser and more spiritually enlightened than me and explained that regret and jealousy are probably the two most wasteful forms of energy that could ever exist.

I told this person I wish I had made different choices, and he explained to me what I’m writing about today. He said I couldn’t possibly have made any other choices than the ones I made at the time. Because of those choices, I learned the lessons I needed to learn.

I once wondered why I always had to learn lessons the hard way, but now I know there’s no such thing as an easy lesson. It’s through the struggle and by overcoming adversity that we learn our lessons, and if we’re smart, we never have to learn those lessons again.

Once you understand that you’re always in the right place at the right time every time, you can release regret and move forward to a much happier place, with a new lesson under your belt that you never have to learn again. The more you learn through making choices and having to deal with those choices, the wiser you become and the easier it is to make the ideal decision when new situations arrive in your life.

One more thing I’d like to add is you’ll never know how a situation is going to take shape till you make your choice. If in the example of the liquor store hold up you made a choice and got killed or someone you know got killed, this is the nature of life on our planet, and there’s no other way things could have transpired.

You can hate and regret all you like, but you can’t change the nature of life. What you can do is accept the choices you make and the choices of others and love the journey. When you make a choice, and your dreams come true, this might’ve only come about due to all the seemingly bad choices you made and learned from in the past. There’s a valuable lesson in every decision you make.


Anthony Hill

When you put together the sum total of my 30 years of bodybuilding training, the contests, the vast array of diets I have experimented (tortured) myself with as well as the experiences I have been through with various training partners in the gyms I have trained in all over the world, it’s been a great ride and I wouldn’t change it for anything. Over the years, I have been fortunate enough to be able to do lots of personal training for private clients alongside my day job. For a few years during my 30’s, I moved to Asia and worked as the Fitness Manager and head personal trainer at one of Thailand’s leading gyms in Bangkok. Learn More

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